The Deck and Me

Today I stained my deck.

It seems mundane. A task we ‘have’ to do when wood gets worn and unseemly. And it had already been a long day. My mother had gone into surgery this morning for a massive tumor and hysterectomy. The same surgery I had just gone through in January. Four months now but I still feel the tearing, the straining, the adjustments, and the pain.

As I began to stain over the worn out wood, I felt a sense of calm arise. Seeing something that looked so old and useless turn into a beautiful and nearly new object was quite satisfying. It all felt quite peaceful in a way—the swishing of the stain across the wood grain; the sound of the birds and the smell of the grill coming from my neighbor’s back yard. Therapeutic work; like an art form. I was grateful.

My mind finally felt freed up. The movement and the labor allowed me space to contemplate. To feel. And there were lots of those. Feelings, I mean. My heart and thoughts leapt from the anxiety of the day, wondering if mom had cancer, and if she would even make it out of surgery, to the loss of my own reproductive organs, and the stress and strain of the biopsies. The wondering and praying I didn’t have cancer all year, and now this. To be honest, I didn’t know if I’d even see mom again. It brought up the memories of when dad died. No final goodbye, just regrets.

As my paint brush jumped to a new piece of deck, my mind jumped too. What a difficult year. The quarantine, the losses, the homeschooling, and new business. The loss of friendships, my ministry, and church family. It all. just. seemed. to. be. too. much. But God.

As the stain soaked into the rotting wood, I felt hope arise. Seems odd if you look at everything practically. 30 years living with bipolar disorder and panic disorder. Adopting a child who suffers too. ADHD, depression, and now testing for autism. It’s been a long journey I can’t quite wrap into this small space in time but the grief is real. The whole “what could have been but never will be” thing is so real and stunningly painful. Only gratitude can help now. I think God still does miracles but for the most part He likes to do healings that take time and effort.

I stepped back to look at my work. Half of the deck looked nearly new. The other half pretty sketchy. It was really a picture of me. Worn out from so much life. So much experience. Sure there had been days where the party tunes were loud and the visitors full of laughter—when the deck was lively and full of promise. But the rain and heat and the constant usage wore it out. A little stain doesn’t make it new. It doesn’t erase what caused the wearing, or replace the wood beneath. Is it merely a cosmetic fix that doesn’t get to the heart of the matter?

Listen, you can continue to paint over what’s wrong when really you need to go deeper. Stain, stain, and re-stain, but at some point you might need to replace a rotting board or two. There’s no denying real construction is possible in the future when we choose to hide the truth. I choose the word “authentic” for my year in January and this is it my friends. No more simple coverups to avoid the real work.

There’s so much loss but so much gain. I see the hope with so much pain. I’ve heard your greatest ministry, your real life purpose is in your greatest pain and testimony. Well let it be then friends, let it be.

So allow yourself to feel, to grieve. Write, create, and express it! Be real, be authentic, be you. And use it to launch you into your greatest purpose and change. the. world! When you walk unleashed, you will unleash others around you and your greatest pain will be not only yours, but exactly the healing someone else needs too.

Tiffany x

The Back Road

Wandering down the abandoned prairie road brought her peace.

It was the kind of trail she imagined once held horses and buggies and later old jalopies. The one where the cool summer breeze rustled through trees and down shady lanes full of dandelions and wild flowers. If she silenced her heart enough, she could still hear the clip clop of the horse hooves and the giggles of young children running free in the warm summer sun. Melancholy. Nostalgic. There’s no other way to put it. She was longing for a simpler time.

The days were long and worry-filled, she thought, as she journeyed down the back road. She had been out for a drive just prior and had seen the trail from the highway. Throwing caution to the wind, she stopped to explore—her curiosity always got the best of her. She had that way about her.

The earth felt solid beneath her feet. Sometimes you just need that—to feel something stronger than your body and your spirit, especially when they’re broken. The realness, the constancy of the ground, and the consistency of something between your fingers. To smell the grass and flowers. To hear the birds and the buzzing of the bees. There’s security in the constant turning of the seasons. There’s peace in the beauty God made by His voice.

If only we could hide on the back road. Instead we go, we stay awhile, and we heal. We hope, do we ever hope. We ask—for more, for something to make sense, for love. Sure we break but we mend on that back road. We welcome in the Divine and let Him heal us. Then we bring that peace back to the chaos within ourselves and the world. We go back. We always go back.

So here’s to you finding your adventure today. Discover your own back road and come back with more peace for you and for us. Take it all in and live again,

Tiffany x

God, Dreams & Entrepreneurship: Part I

I’m not talking about daydreaming. 💤

▫︎Don’t get me wrong. Having dreams is important, but I’m talking about the dreams you have when you’re asleep. The ones that shake you, rock you, and leave you wondering if they actually happened. 💭

For God does speak—now one way, now another— though no one perceives it. In a dream, in a vision of the night, when deep sleep falls on people as they slumber in their beds,

Job 33:14-15

▫︎God is so good! Quite often He reveals Himself to us in dreams and last night was no exception for me. Historically speaking, so many of my night dreams come true. Call me an old man if you must.

In the last days, God says, I will pour out my Spirit on all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your young men will see visions, your old men will dream dreams.

Acts 2:17

▫︎In my dream I was by the river in Manitoba, Canada and a woman came up to me and said “Because of your hard work with your business lately I am giving you my car.” It was a Hyundai. I was so grateful and happy!

▫︎Not long after, she came up to me again and said “No, I changed my mind.” “I’m going to give you my new Mercedes Benz instead!” It looked quite like the one in the above photo. White, shiny, and new. Stunning.

Um, yes please! Thank You Lord!

▫︎So today I’m saying to you work hard at all you do. Show up. Try your best and do all you do unto the Lord! Listen—there’s upgrades and level-ups available when you do! Daydreaming is great but unless you put the hard work in, those types of dreams will stay just that. Dreams.

There’s upgrades and level-ups available!

▫︎God gives good gifts—the best of which was the free gift of salvation when He gave His only Son to die for us and our sins. He is still in the business of giving good gifts to His sons and daughters!

▫︎When I awoke from my dream, the word “favor” stood out to me audibly. So today I pray for favor, and also endurance, strategy, perseverance, and upgrades for you and me as we continue to work heartily in all of entrepreneurial and career endeavours today!

fa·vor

/ˈfāvər/

noun

something done or granted out of goodwill, rather than from justice or for remuneration; a kind act

friendly or well-disposed regard; goodwill

the state of being approved or held in regard

excessive kindness or unfair partiality; preferential treatment

“Let the favor of the Lord our God be upon us, and establish the work of our hands upon us; yes, establish the work of our hands!” – Psalm 90:17

“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” – Colossians 3:23-24

“You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands; you shall be blessed, and it shall be well with you.” – Psalm 128:2

▫︎Are you an entrepreneur? Share your business and link below! May you have favor with God and man and success in your endeavours as you look to God for strategies and guidance in all you do! Blessings!👇🏻

Tiffany x

My Peachy Gift Guide for Valentine’s Day: Tiffany’s Favorite Things

Here it is. My Peachy faves for Valentine’s/Galentine’s! ♡

♡ I’ve rounded up a few of my favorite things as my 1st Annual ‘Peachy Gift Guide for Valentine’s Day! Everything on the list is under $120 CDN (and most way under that). I also seriously love each item and use each one, or I want to purchase one for myself!

♡ I hope we all know the drill right now. Try to shop small and local as much as possible because many small businesses are struggling right now.

Now let’s get some amazing finds for our loved ones

♡ First of all, can I just say how legit EXCITED I am to be back writing about fun gifting favorites and sharing all the things I love with all of you? One of my most fulfilling things is to share things that I’ve found that I love and that support small business people. So let’s go, here’s just a few I found that I adore:

  • Lion of Judah Clothing Company – this Christian apparel brand is an online retailer based in the United States, whose mission is to bring high quality products to believers who want to rep the King in a stylish fashion. New in 2020, this small business aims to bring more Christ-centered business into the world. Their mission is to make and deliver quality products for those who want to rep the Lion of Judah, the King of Kings, and the Lord of Lords in their everyday apparel. They believe that any one of us can change the world, but it starts with trusting in Him. I absolutely love the mission and the vision of this small business and so I also brand rep them and can offer my followers 10% off any of their purchases with Code TIFF10. I love how this sweatshirt reminds us that He calls us to love not some, but all and is a gentle reminder that we are called to spread His love every day. Loose fit and comfortable. Spread your love to all with this awesome sweatshirt. $48 CDN. How to purchase – Lion of Judah Clothing Company
  • The North Sound – this music duo from Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, Canada is ever-changing with lyrics spanning across haunting metaphors and a sound balanced between today’s modern production and the era of Gram Parsons and Emmylou Harris. Formed in 2014 by Forrest Eaglespeaker and supported by his partner Nevada Freistadt, The North Sound was created as a way to share stories in keeping true to Forrest’s Blackfoot identity and traditions from Treaty 7 Territory. The North Sound has had three singles reach number one on the Indigenous Music Countdown as well as Saskatchewan’s MBC Radio, and has received four nominations from the SCMA; two for Roots Artist of the Year and one for Emerging Artist of the Year, and they recently won “Indigenous Artist of the Year” for the Saskatchewan Music Awards. $15 CDN. How to purchase – The North Sound
  • Limelife by Alcone – this Build Your Own Lip Bundle is so beautiful and a great way to save some money on these professional, leaping bunny certified cosmetics! Send love all around with these custom lip bundles — pick any two vegan lip products from any of the Enduring Lip Colours (my fave), Enduring Lip Liners (self-sharpening!), Perfect Lipsticks, Perfect Lip Glosses (non-sticky), Perfect Lip Scrub (a winter must-have), Perfect Balm, or Perfect Balm SPF 30 – it’s the perfect chance to stock up or share with someone who deserves a treat! Build yours quickly because these bundles are only available for the month of February! I’m wearing the Enduring Lip Liner in Dark Nude, the Enduring Lip Colour in S’mores with a touch of Concealer 00 in the middle, and the Perfect Lip Gloss in Grace. Go support my small business with your purchase! An awesome idea for any woman in your life including yourself. $42 CDN. How to purchase: Limelife by Alcone – The Peachy Keen Diaries
  • Wildflower Colour & Clay – Jessica Rachelle produces pottery out of her studio in Winkler, Manitoba. As a former barista and waitress with a long interest in cooking and hosting, it is only natural that her ceramics would focus on these activities where people come together over food and drink. It’s her vision to see her mugs inspire people as they take a moment to breathe and dream, to see a collection of her plates amplify the beauty of a family enjoying a meal, and to see her tumblers add to the refreshment of friends sharing a drink. There is significance in these ordinary moments and Jessica wants her pottery to add to their depth and beauty. Love this vision and small woman-owned business! $38 CDN. How to purchase: Wildflower Colour & Clay
  • FLIKR Fire – A portable way to enjoy the cozy comfort of a fire in your home office or anywhere! Runs on clean-burning rubbing alcohol. I found this online and thought “I NEED this!” Perfect for creating a warm and cozy atmosphere anywhere in your home or outside. Provides around 50 minutes of burn time without any soot or smoke. The cement design is height-adjustable to suit your space. Made by a small couple-owned business in Cleveland. $120 CDN. How to purchase: FLIKR Fire
  • Trumpet + Tassel – this local, small and woman-owned Canadian business makes sustainable, vegan leather jewelry for big causes. And I own it! Made in small-town Manitoba, Canada and operating from Etsy online, this jewelry is both super pretty and totally affordable to purchase. PLUS 10% currently goes to help The Canadian Cancer Society, a cause we can all get behind (gifting that gives back is the way to go whenever possible). Currently available in 3 different colours: 1. Cool Cats + Kittens; 2. Little Black Dress; and 3. Oh Natural. Our newest colour just sold out and is called My Funny Valentine. Don’t worry, we have lots more coming soon! A beautiful and thoughtful gift for the friend that loves accessories, and for every woman in your life this Valentine’s. $22 CDN. How to purchase: Trumpet + Tassel

Note: All photos are credited to the individual business owners

♡ Which items are you going to get for a Valentine, Galentine, or yourself? Let me know in the comments! I’m looking forward to hearing from you! Happy shopping!

Tiffany x

When Things are Overwhelming: My Story of Panic Attacks, Meds, and the Man 👆🏻

I don’t know what I would have done without that pill last night. 💊

Lorazepam.

⦶ I was actually too afraid to take one for the longest time. That’s the nature of the beast I guess. Anxiety seems to put you in hyper-vigilance mode and even the things meant to help you can seem like the enemy.

This magic pill has saved my butt a few times. Last night too. Grateful.

⦶ Don’t get me wrong. This isn’t an either-or sitch. When I’ve called out to God He has helped in some way. Even in the midst of this last panic attack I could sense His presence. Sometimes He’s seemingly absent so it’s simply by faith that I know He’s there. Then there’s times, the best of times, when He’s so spiritually tangible I can almost feel Him. Last night I sensed Him in the form of my son’s powerful prayers and the calming presence of my husband. Regardless, He never leaves us. There’s a comfort in that even when going through the deepest, darkest trials.

“I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

— Hebrews 13:5

⦶ Have you ever felt you weren’t going to make it?

Me at 1:00 am — “I need an ambulance!! Stat!! I’m having a heart attack!!!”

⦶ There’s been times when I’ve been ill and after crying out to God my symptoms suddenly disappear and peace comes upon me—this is the power and love of my God. He’s truly good! Do you know Him?

⦶ I wish it was always that way, that easy, but it’s not. I mean, He remains good but symptoms don’t always just disappear at the drop of a hat, in fact, more often than not they persist! My prayers and the prayers of others don’t always bring immediate healing and unicorns and rainbows. And last night was one of those times. I thought I was going to die.

Panic Attacks:

⦶ Panic attacks are one of the worst things I’ve ever experienced. I’ve landed in the ER with electrodes hooked up to me because of them. I’ve suffered in silence for decades. They’re literally the worst. They’re like nonsensical terrorists of the mind and body that attack when you’re least expecting it. They especially don’t make sense when they wake you from peaceful slumber and leave you physically unable to breath or function properly. This seems to happen more when you’re subconsciously overwhelmed. In the quiet time, when you’re asleep, the body, brain and mind have time to catch up to one another. And then BAM. There it goes..

Symptoms:

  • Sense of impending doom or danger
  • Fear of loss of control or death
  • Rapid, pounding heart rate
  • Sweating
  • Trembling or shaking
  • Shortness of breath or tightness in your throat
  • Chills
  • Hot flashes
  • Nausea
  • Abdominal cramping
  • Chest pain
  • Headache
  • Dizziness, lightheadedness or faintness
  • Numbness or tingling sensation
  • Feeling of unreality or detachment

⦶ My worst symptom is the racing, pounding heart rate with a hint of thoughts of impending doom—a mental health cocktail mix I hate to the core. So what’s up?

Being Overwhelmed:

⦶ This has definitely been a year for feeling overwhelmed. First with COVID, lockdowns, separation from friends and family, and then for some of us loss or gain of work, other life transitions, and illness. All of these can just catch up to a person, like me, and come out in the quiet times. Pair that with the fact that feeling easily overwhelmed seems to go hand in hand with anxiety and you have a cycle that needs to be broken. Let me just say there’s NO condemnation in this. Here me again if you suffer like me. There’s. No. Condemnation. We are all doing the best we can with what we have and sometimes our brains and bodies are just plain old exhausted and/or lacking a balance of necessary chemicals. Don’t suffer in silence. Tell someone. Get help. And don’t add to the stigma.

There’s. No. Condemnation.

⦶ I haven’t always been able to keep it real in the past. Or so I thought. In my last season, being in formal Christian ministry in the charismatic church was a great honour and blessing but also difficult in many ways.

⦶ Could I really be me? I mean, what would people think if they knew one of their supposedly fearless leaders that believed God healed and even prayed for others and saw them healed, had to still take some psychiatric meds to keep sane? Simply put, whether by my own doing or the unspoken one that comes with the territory, it was a battle I couldn’t do anymore. Be real. Be open. Be you. There’s more power in authenticity then there is in hiding and that’s when real help and real ministry can happen.

⦶ God can work through really difficult situations. I’ve seen it time and time again making me think of that scripture about His ways and thoughts being different than ours. Now THAT’S so the truth, isn’t it?

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.

—Isaiah 55:8-9 ESV

⦶ Last night I had been in research mode. With an upcoming rush hysterectomy in a week and half, I don’t feel prepared for it. To be honest, I don’t feel prepared for the trip, for the COVID risks, for the surgery, for the meds, for the downtime, for the possible complications, for homeschooling afterwards, for the results of my pathology, for anything. I tried to keep away from the support groups that really just freak a person out more than anything (which was a good choice but not completely helpful). After putting the research away and nodding off into dreamland it still happened. My heart kicked into a 200 bpm nightmare jolting me out of bed and down the stairs to some sort of relief that didn’t exist. Reality began to disappear before me. My limbs went numb and I began to shake and lose control. The storm was upon me again. I was definitely overwhelmed.

Have your felt overwhelmed this past year? You’re not alone! Take a time out. Rest. Read. Get off social media. Exercise. Laugh. Play. Pray. Breathe deep. Take care of you.

How to Get Out of a Panic Attack:

⦶ You can find lots of techniques and theories for getting rid of panic attacks on the internet so I won’t repeat them all here. But these are honestly the only ones that have helped me personally over the decades. None are foolproof and sometimes you have to try and try again, mix and match, and press on. NOTE: the key is to ask your Doctor first. I am NOT a medical professional, this is just what I do or have done in the past.

  • Take a fast-acting anti-anxiety med like Lorazepam (be cautious – ask your doctor first and don’t take if you are prone to addictions)
  • Take antidepressants (longer term solution)
  • Move. Run. Walk. Pace.
  • Take a deep breath or 2 or 200 in cold fresh air
  • Pray and have others pray for you
  • Splash cold water on your face
  • Bear down (can help with racing heart)
  • Eat some protein and have a drink of juice
  • Get a distraction – tv, movie, have another person talk to you
  • Touch something. Hard.
  • Do deep breathing – inhale slow, hold, exhale slow
  • See your doctor and/or therapist

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

—Philippians 4:6-7

⦶ Do you suffer from panic attacks? What has helped you? Will you try any of the above pointers? I’m rooting for you in this strange time of life and would love to keep you in my prayers. Send me a message or comment below! If you’re suffering please seek professional help. I’m here with you giving you a virtual hug tonight. We’ve got this!! He’s got us!!

Tiffany x

Peachy Keen Evening Thoughts: Sundays, Hysterectomies, and Mascara, Oh My!

It’s been a day. 🥴

‣ How was yours? I spent mine with online Church, some rest, and finally starting to prep for my surgery in a couple weeks. I’m starting some lists at least.

Where’s my ‘Hyster Sisters’ at?!

Photo Cred: Some awesome artist off Google Search on the net who should be uber famous for this amaze drawing lol!

‣ A rushed hysterectomy during COVID is not on my must-do bucket list for 2021 so I’m not feeling it friends. I’m just not. I really hope it will be like the 2020 situation for me. You know, the poopshow year that turns into a blessing of sorts when you look hard enough and keep your eyes on God. I’ll be writing new blog posts as I go which will hopefully help any of you on or about to be on the same journey as me! In keeping with my 2021 word “Authentic”, I’m going to be just that. It might get raw but it’s going to be nothing but real.

‣ As I’m sitting here with a million tabs open (literally on my computer and in my brain) I also wanted to post how much I dearly appreciate your support and business right now! I want to re-share my Colour Match Quiz link for anyone that wants a Perfect Foundation or Complete Concealer colour match and then my website for anyone needing any other professional, vegan, gluten free, and cruelty free skin care and makeup. I’m in a race to get active by the 15th plus meet some fast start goals this month all before I head to the city for surgery so if you need anything get on your girl’s links ASAP!

‣ I’ll be moving much, much slower after my hysterectomy and won’t be as with it to keep my social media posts rolling for awhile. Thanks for helping me reach my goals and keep my sights up and not down in the dumps right now! Remember, sharing is caring, so if you can’t purchase right now, please share my Facebook lives, posts, and support me and small biz at least that way. So needed! I was also going to have had my new accessories launched with Trumpet + Tassel by today, but I just couldn’t do it. Everything takes so much work and I’m not sure I will be able to launch until I’m on the road to recovery. I’ll keep you posted though. Thanks for understanding. *hearts*

So ya, this is where the mascara comes in. That’s how my brain is. Making leaps and bounds from one thought to the next. AND IT ALL MAKES SENSE!!! …Ah-hem. It does. Seriously.

‣ After a couple of tears today, (ok, maybe more than a couple), that led me to the thought that I put some of our Making Waves Waterproof Mascara on yesterday and it’s still on! Totally didn’t take it off last night (don’t do this at home friends) But like what? Where was this when I was a hot mess worship leader with racoon eyes every time I led? It also has Shea Butter and Vitamin E which I love for my barely-there, needing-all-the-nutrients lashes.

Making Waves Mascara:

  • Vegan
  • gives max volume and hold
  • made with Vitamin E to nourish and keep lashes soft
  • Shea butter for glossy not flaky lashes
  • extremely waterproof

Perfect Mascara:

  • creates the appearance of longer, fuller lashes
  • professional formula
  • contains lengthening fibers
  • smooth and creamy wax based formula
  • creates natural looking long lashes

‣ So that’s the deets on our crazy awesome mascaras! Our Perfect Mascara is lengthening and super popular. You can also get a choice of one of these fab mascara with an eyeliner in our Take Two Collection:

Take Two Collection:

  • double up on our best-selling eye makeup and save
  • select your choice of our Perfect Eyeliner Pen or Enduring Eyeliner Pencil with our Perfect Mascara in Black or Brown or Waterproof Mascara in Black
  • create eyes that will make you do a double take

‣ I hope you all have a great night and great sleep and a blessed day tomorrow! First day back at school and first day back at being a homeschool teacher for me since Christmas break. Could be interesting!

Hugs and love,

Tiffany x

Vision Boards: Making the Vision Plain for 2021

Pop open the bubbly and say cheers to a Happy New Year! 🍾

🍾 Moving on to the new is easy. It seems to be human nature to toss out anything that isn’t shiny anymore, and obviously 2020 NEVER was. But before we totally kick this year to the curb, let’s take a moment, shall we, to just thank God for all we discovered, simplified, and learned this past year! I’ve learned what’s important and what’s really not. I’ve learned to take care of myself or I won’t be around for anything or anyone. I learned to be more grateful on the daily and to believe in all God has put inside me. I’ve learned so much, I think more than any amazingly wonderful year could have taught me—how about you?

🍾 So with eyes set on 2021, let’s set our visions out before us so we can run with all God has for us. You know those dreams deep down in your heart? The ones that scare you and make you think there’s no way they’re possible. Ya those. God put them there. Let’s get them out and RUN with them shall we?!

How to Make a Vision Board

🍾 I have a secret plan to rule the world. Mwahahaha… Ok, maybe not THE world, but MY world! Goal setting is the Little Black Dress we all need, and Vision Boards are one way to visually lay out these goals and dreams for the year by using a collage of words and images. My goal with the vision board is to not only get all my hopes down for the new year but to also utilize it as a sort of roadmap to success, especially on those days that I need a reminder as to why I even started and where I’m trying to go. So let’s do this!

Goal setting is the Little Black Dress we all need, and Vision Boards are one way to visually lay out these goals and dreams for the year by using a collage of words and images.

🍾 This afternoon, I lovingly forced my family to get their computers and glue sticks and scissors out as well and we all hunkered down for an hour of visioneering. Ok, so I live in reality and my son only handled it for 20 minutes (yay I’ll take it) and my husband had to ditch out for work (says he’ll do it later) but we did get a bit of it done already and we still have a few hours left in the year! I might even take tomorrow as an off-work day and it get it all finished up and ready to go.

“Write the vision
And make it plain on tablets,
That he may run who reads it.”

Habakkuk 2:2

🍾 The Word says to “record the vision and make it plain” so that ” the one who reads it may run with it“. Talk about a step by step way to a. know where you’re going, b. why you’re going there in the first place, c. in a simple way, and d. so the reader can run with it. I absolutely love this scripture and the practicality of much of the Bible such as this scripture and the Book of Proverbs (check it out!). Make plans with God and then set your boots to the ground to complete them. BOOM.

🍾 I’ve always been a dreamer. And I’ve also been a goal setter in the past. But most of my goals were so hard to reach, without the necessary steps to get there, that I lost hope and fell of the wagon quickly! I think that’s why New Year’s resolutions usually fail so miserably. Most of us have great intentions but it’s just the way to get to where we want to go is missing something.

🍾 I think I figured it out. A wise business mentor told me, focus your goals on process not unrealistic end goals. This will help you achieve them by focusing on the steps to get to where you want to go! So let’s do this baby!

Where Do I Start, Girlfriend?
  1. Write down a list of your goals and dreams. Pray and see what God is saying to you about your life and your upcoming year. Plan with Him and listen to what He’s put inside your heart (you know—those things you’ve always wanted to do, that make you excited to even think about, and that scare the pants right off you!). Jot them down!
Your Vision Board could include the following areas:
  1. Personal
  2. Finances
  3. Business
  4. Education
  5. Spirituality
  6. Fitness
  7. Travel
  8. Health
  9. Whatever else you can think of…

2. Get yourself the following supplies:

  • a large piece of white paper or poster board
  • if you don’t want to use paper, go digital! Get on Canva (a FREE app) and find a photo template you love!
  • glue sticks
  • scissors
  • markers
  • a glass of wine or cup of tea
  • some good tunage for a fun time! It’s New Year’s Eve!!

3. Now have fun! Write down your areas of focus with markers or print them off of Pinterest or an editing program (Pinterest has FREE download links that have super nice and swirly text for topic headings). Get some old magazines and cut out photo’s of your goals OR if you can’t find any (and your local corner store isn’t selling them anymore due to COVID) then print off photos from your computer and cut them out! The best part about this is literally the cutting and pasting. Takes me wayyyyy back to Kindergarten in a good way!

4. Take a photo of your finished product and send it to me! I’d seriously love to see them and make of post of them but ok, if not, just find a great place in your home to post it up so you can look at it daily and remember where you’re going!

SPECIAL NOTE FOLKS – plans change. Plans CAN change. And that’s ok! As we’ve seen with 2020, things don’t always go according to plan. God’s plans are higher and greater and sometimes we can’t always see them (kind of like a forest for the trees scenario). All you can do is plan your best, set your goals high with achievable steps, dream big with God and GO! If things change you can reset your vision as the year progresses. In fact, you should! Add photos. Glue on top of others. Don’t stress! If something unexpected comes up, learn to adapt and change course keeping as much as you can and adding or subtracting what need be! I know since I’m now having unexpected surgery at the end of January, I am having to realign my goals to much smaller ones for the first half of the year (like just surviving and resting lots so I heal up well). Roll with the punches and rock this year my friend! You’ve got this!

🍾 It’s really that easy! I’m looking forward to getting my Vision Board completed and up on my wall in my home office. Those days where I feel like “I can’t do this” or “what was I thinking” or “squirrel” (you know what I’m saying, right?), I’m going to have this Vision Board to remind me, and to get me re-motivated, inspired, and back on track!

🍾 Have you ever made a Vision Board before? Are you going to make one tonight? Let me know below, I’d love to hear from you! Post one goal you have for 2021!

Happy New Year Peachy Queens + Gents!

Tiffany x

Digging Deeper: A Christmas Story

I’ve had to dig a little deeper this year. 🎁

☆ I mean really dig. In the quiet times, alone. Sometimes in tears and usually after I feel I failed as a mother. We all know. “It’s a different year.” A different Christmas. It just all hits different right now, doesn’t it?

It’s a different year.

Tiffany Butler—pointing out the obvious

☆ I made myself sit and ponder. Maybe it was the Christmas star that did it for me, but in the mix of depression and work, melancholy and delight, there lies the truth of it all. And sometimes we just have to dig deep to find it.

☆ It seems I don’t know how to do that very well in the midst of the craziness. When I pull away I can see Christ in His splendor, in His peace, beckoning me to just come away with Him and stay awhile. It’s where I know I can just be. With Him. I question why it becomes such a quest to find the meaning in it all at times? Truth and simplicity can be glazed over by work, tinsel and bows, presents, and stress.

☆ But in a manger, far from the crowds and social media, here for you and me, He came. To bring us the best gift of all. Himself. Born for our sins. For our freedom. For us.

☆ Finding the time to find the truth is the most important thing right now. I hope you can find it—Him. I also hope you can find it in the midst of all you do—I know I’m trying although it seems to come easier when I just rest.

☆ He is here with us now. In the loneliness. In the strain. In the mess. And He’s the best part of it all! Take a moment to welcome Him in and say thanks—for another day, for life, for it all. Even these deep depths of sadness and questioning that lead us closer to Him and one another—to the important stuff. Thank God.

He is here with us now. In the loneliness. In the strain. In the mess. And He’s the best part of it all.

“BEHOLD, THE VIRGIN SHALL BE WITH CHILD AND SHALL BEAR A SON, AND THEY SHALL CALL HIS NAME IMMANUEL,” which translated means, “GOD WITH US.

-Matthew 1:23

And an angel of the Lord suddenly stood before them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them; and they were terribly frightened.  But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid; for behold, I bring you good news of great joy which will be for all the people; for today in the city of David there has been born for you a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. This will be a sign for you: you will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.” And suddenly there appeared with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying, “Glory to God in the highest,
And on earth peace among men with whom He is pleased.”

– Luke 2:9-14

Do not be afraid. We can trust Him.

Good news of great joy. There’s joy in Him.

For all people. For EVERYONE including you.

A Savior.

For to us a child is born,
    to us a son is given,
    and the government will be on his shoulders.
And he will be called
    Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God,
    Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.
 Of the greatness of his government and peace
    there will be no end.
He will reign on David’s throne
    and over his kingdom,
establishing and upholding it
    with justice and righteousness
    from that time on and forever.
The zeal of the Lord Almighty
    will accomplish this.

-Isaiah 9:6-7

Wonderful Counselor. He’s with you. For you.

Mighty God. What can’t He do?

Everlasting Father. Forever.

Prince of Peace. Even now.

He reigns. Not COVID, not sadness, not sickness, not loneliness, but Him.

☆ May you have a very merry Christmas, my friend. We wish you all the best as we wrap up 2020 and head into 2021. I think our digging this year has shown us what’s really important now and in the New Year. And it’s really one another. ♡

Much love and Merry Christmas from Us, The Butler's, in the thick of it all but near the streams of Living Water

Tiffany (and Trevor and Sam) x

Becoming Authentic Behind the Smile

Your smile.☺

◦ What do you hide behind it? Pain, fear, anger, jealousy, trauma, illness, sadness…? Are you authentic with those around you? Selah.

◦ I was taught to hide. To not say certain things or it could bring them on. Or maybe it would reveal I had no faith. In my mind, that was the kiss of death in ministry.

◦ I have more joy and strength of the Lord now just being me. I mean I’m still on a journey. Being authentic and transparent is a way to share both the good and the bad with those who may just need what you have to say. Your trial may be what showcases the glory of God more than any lying could have done.

◦ You don’t control the universe, He does. He is sovereign. You don’t need to sell His goodness like the world won’t believe it unless you’re fake. His goodness ABOUNDS y’all!!! It’s all around us through all the craziness we see on the surface.

◦ There’s a bridge to healing called truth. Walk it. Own it. Live it. Take the mask off and be you. God loves YOU. Not the fake you that you thought you had to portray to others.

◦ I’m gonna fly my freak flag high folks and hope you come to know the REAL me and that ya, this trial I’m going through sucks, and it’s real, and it’s raw, and it’s scary. Getting the word “cancer” thrown on you is NOT something I wish for anyone.

◦ Do you hide the real you behind a smile? What have trials taught you? Have you come to lean on God even more through them? Comment below! I’d love to hear any encouragement, wisdom, and your experiences!

Tiffany x

I Just Want to Say THANK YOU!

Hi you. 🧡

I just want to say THANK YOU!!

👉🏻 So I started my blog at the end of October as a place to vent after being diagnosed with endometrial pre-cancer. The diagnosis sucks and so does the stuff that goes with it, but the blessings of what’s coming out of it are sooooo good!!! Isn’t that the way God is?? Always turning our worst moments for our good? 🙌🏼

👉🏻 Thanks to you all, this blog and my IG feed have now blossomed into a place of fantastic fashion, beautiful makeup, and sometimes laughable but always encouraging and faith-filled lifestyle musings with all its mess! I just want to say a BIG PEACHY KEEN THANK YOU to everyone who has started following along on my crazy new adventure! And if you haven’t yet, WHAT YOU WAITING FOR?! 🧡 I’ll always keep it real with you and give you the best of me!! I’m so grateful for all of the new friendships I am making with you!! It’s really needed!!

Some of my ✨2021✨ goals:

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🧡 increase posts giving you the best of my affordable and great-for-any-age-and-body-type fashion tips and outfit links (including awesome savings codes for you peachy followers!!) 💃🤩

Here’s what I have for you so far:

  • 30% off of awesome girl gang and boss babe clothes and accessories at Her Team with Code thepeachykeendiaries
  • 50% off of activewear and workout clothes at Mello with Code MELLOTIFFANY
  • 10% off of faith-based clothing at Lion of Judah Clothing with Code TIFF10
  • LimeLifer Customer Appreciation Program for professional, clean makeup/skin care at LimeLife by Alcone
  • 10% off of my accessories brand at Trumpet + Tassel for peachy keen followers with Code PEACHY10

This will continue to be updated on my Linktree here!

🧡 go live with super fun chit chats that you’ll look forward to each day, giveaways, and makeup tips, especially for the 40-50 crowd like your girl here! 🙋💄

🧡 share my faith and encouragement with you through music, bible studies, random thoughts, and let you know my DM’s are always open for prayer, a virtual hug, support and love (the friendly kind, ha!) If this year has taught me anything it’s that we need each other! We need a Tribe of hype girls that love and LIFT one another UP not tear one another down in jealousy! COME ON!! 👏🏻👑

🧡 to continue to show you the real, not the perfect ‘cause it does NOT exist. And that life is beautiful in all of it ups and downs. I got you!

🧡 …more to come as we inch closer to the New Year!!…

👉🏻 What is one of YOUR goals for 2021? Comment below! I can’t wait to read them!

Tiffany x